“The Danish psychotherapist draws a very detailed portrait of a person whom she calls highly sensitive,” says psychologist Elena Perova. – He is vulnerable, anxious, a bit and immersed in himself. Sand refers to this category. High sensitivity is often considered a disadvantage, since such people are easily exhausted mentally. However, there are many positive aspects in it: thoughtfulness, ability to subtly feel beauty, developed spiritual principle, responsibility.
In order for these advantages to manifest itself, to a sensitive person, instead of worrying due to low stress resistance, you should not be embarrassed to declare others about your characteristics. Explain that he needs to be alone, leave early from the holidays, and on some do not appear at all, ask guests to leave home at exactly nine. In a word, adjust the world around your own
characteristics and live your life. The only question is where to every such a sensitive person (mainly an introvert) to find the full strength of a life companion, which will take on tiring duties like buying furniture, accompanying children for classes and parental meetings.
Sand indignantly notes that before highly sensitive people they called neurobolny, but she talks about them with such trepidation, as if she recommends that this. The idea of the book is simple, but this is no less valuable: we are different, many personal characteristics are innate and can only be changed partly. It is useless to try to turn ourselves into an energetic hero who writes a list of a hundred exploits in the morning and fulfills it by dinner. Ilse Sand helps such people accept themselves and tells how to take care of themselves “.
Elena Perova, clinical psychologist, translator, including books “Fundamentals of the theory of object relations”. and d. Scarf, stream, “psychology of optimal experience” by Mikhai Chicentmihaii.
Translated from Danish Anastasia Naumova, Nikolai Fitisova. Alpina Plisher, 158 from.